How did we get here?

Today I read of a red dress, crazy characters of hyperbole and a half (yea I know ... you have to read it to get it), accommodations, and my unwillingness to participate in the correct manner of living. So what do I take away from this? Some get it, most do not. What does this mean? Sit, read, and project this onto yourself.

So where do these crazy ideas of self fulfillment, personal quests, and just being down right proud of myself come from? We women are taught to look after others, stroke egos, stop and clean up the mess, and for the most part we do. So how did I end up with all these self centered ideas? Well some of it is nature but a good portion is nurture.

I was once told that I have lived three lifetimes and now I am looking for a fourth. My response: hopefully it will be closer to eight or nine! Yes I have gone, seen and done but I am nowhere near done. I attribute my outlook in life to my Dad. A great man he is! Always a smile and a positive attitude until things are too much to bear then he'd always have the best smart ass remark that could make anyone laugh. With his guidance and my completely unplanned, buckshot approach to life I have managed to find the most wonderful thing in the world. ME!!

I have learned that even when things seem to be at the darkest, the sun is just on the horizon. Life is truly what you make it. You do not need to make yourself fit into the pigeonhole society created. So what if you think differently, the sun will still come up tomorrow at the appointed time ... and .... life will go on.

If you live a different life than the rest, as I do, and believe in something all your own, you are not wrong. If this something has not been published or spoke on, it does not make it incorrect. It just makes it yours! Be proud of who you are and what you have accomplished .. or not accomplished! To accomplish anything that is not of your desire, is not an accomplishment at all. It is someone else's accomplishment. So pride yourself on setting new standards and being you. You are unique and need no confirmations from society to know that you are wonderful ... just as you are!

Conventionality?

Meaning: Conformity with conventional thought and behavior.

Is this really where we want to be? Conventional, I don't want to be conventional! In a box, predictable, that's not for me!

Yes I have to conform at work because I have to pay bills. Is that who I am? No it is not! How do I, we, stand up for what is right? How do we stand up and still pay the bills? How do we achieve those higher levels of understanding while still adhering to conventionality? It seems impossible.....

My heart says one thing .. my brain ... says the same thing (with a warning)! Follow your heart! Has conventionality given you a better sleep at night? No it has not!!

Why not stand up for what you believe in? Fear? Yes, fear it is! Will that immobilize me? No it will not! I can still act.. in today’s society we can out think conventionality and the "Good ole Boys" will be none the wiser.

We the peons can still have a voice and support those who speak up without losing safety.  Safety may sound weak to some, however to those of us who have no one but ourselves to fall back on, this makes perfect sense!

So speak up -- anonymously -- do it for all of us!! Practice anonymously, there is nothing wrong with scripting your conversation before actually having it, and before you know it you will be having your conversation with others.